Tuesday, March 16, 2010
This is so infuriating!!!!
I, for the record, thoroughly despise anything Babywise. No, seriously.
My wife tells me that you can gather good things even from really really horrible parenting books, but this is crap! Pure crap! I can't take anything good out (though there is probably good in there somewhere) because the horribleness of it is too insurmountable! And yes, horribleness is a word!
There is a couple that we know who swear by Babywise and Dr. Dobson's parenting books. The mother is an avid blogger and I have a really hard time reading her posts. She talks much about how horrible it must be for a parent who gives their children freedom and doesn't put them on a rug and beat them every time they reach outside of it for a toy (to teach them obedience). Are we training freaking dogs here? Come on!
I think she has a distorted view, as I once held, of a life of parenting where you are working together as a team, not parents vs. children.
She says that it isn't easy to ignore your child's wants and needs, but if you do it now, it'll be easier for you later. Unlike those stupid parents who have everything bass ackwards. Those parents - like us and much of the world outside of America - know that when you meet your child's needs you are building trust. Do you know what building trust takes? It takes someone stepping out and sacrificing first.
And you think it is easy to meet your child's needs? Do you think it is easy to do things absolutely different than everyone else around you? Do you think it is easy to endure constant, condescending looks by those who have raised 'better' children using 'better' techniques? (Though their children are doing all sorts of horrible things behind closed doors, and they know no wiser.)
AAAAAOAHDUOAFHOAOFDJFJOSDJASDKLFJ....that's my version of online yelling. Just smashing my hands on the keyboard, while holding the Shift key.
Deep breath......
Ok, well, this has been a really uplifting post. Sorry for that! I guess I have a lot to learn.
And I know that right now there are a lot of posts on here that have a common theme of 'us against the world', and I logically understand that it is probably statistically more like 'us against 3/5ths of the world, not 5/5ths'. But it feels like it right now, and sometimes feelings run thicker than water....wait, that's not the right saying.
Anyway, I despise all things Babywise. Some day, maybe I'll be able to articulate on that feeling better, but for this knee-jerk reaction post, it's just going to have to stay ambiguous.
What do you think? Have you found good in Babywise? Please don't put anything about 'moral training' or I will have to punch you through the monitor.
Just kidding. You can write whatever you want. Even if it is how much you hate all things Bearing Grace. I can handle it.....maybe......
I, for the record, thoroughly despise anything Babywise. No, seriously.
My wife tells me that you can gather good things even from really really horrible parenting books, but this is crap! Pure crap! I can't take anything good out (though there is probably good in there somewhere) because the horribleness of it is too insurmountable! And yes, horribleness is a word!
There is a couple that we know who swear by Babywise and Dr. Dobson's parenting books. The mother is an avid blogger and I have a really hard time reading her posts. She talks much about how horrible it must be for a parent who gives their children freedom and doesn't put them on a rug and beat them every time they reach outside of it for a toy (to teach them obedience). Are we training freaking dogs here? Come on!
I think she has a distorted view, as I once held, of a life of parenting where you are working together as a team, not parents vs. children.
She says that it isn't easy to ignore your child's wants and needs, but if you do it now, it'll be easier for you later. Unlike those stupid parents who have everything bass ackwards. Those parents - like us and much of the world outside of America - know that when you meet your child's needs you are building trust. Do you know what building trust takes? It takes someone stepping out and sacrificing first.
And you think it is easy to meet your child's needs? Do you think it is easy to do things absolutely different than everyone else around you? Do you think it is easy to endure constant, condescending looks by those who have raised 'better' children using 'better' techniques? (Though their children are doing all sorts of horrible things behind closed doors, and they know no wiser.)
AAAAAOAHDUOAFHOAOFDJFJOSDJASDKLFJ....that's my version of online yelling. Just smashing my hands on the keyboard, while holding the Shift key.
Deep breath......
Ok, well, this has been a really uplifting post. Sorry for that! I guess I have a lot to learn.
And I know that right now there are a lot of posts on here that have a common theme of 'us against the world', and I logically understand that it is probably statistically more like 'us against 3/5ths of the world, not 5/5ths'. But it feels like it right now, and sometimes feelings run thicker than water....wait, that's not the right saying.
Anyway, I despise all things Babywise. Some day, maybe I'll be able to articulate on that feeling better, but for this knee-jerk reaction post, it's just going to have to stay ambiguous.
What do you think? Have you found good in Babywise? Please don't put anything about 'moral training' or I will have to punch you through the monitor.
Just kidding. You can write whatever you want. Even if it is how much you hate all things Bearing Grace. I can handle it.....maybe......
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