Saturday, February 13, 2010
It's kind of funny that we were talking about being vulnerable a couple days ago...
At work we had a meeting and one of the main topics presented by the speaker was on building a team by building trust. A core part of building trust is being vulnerable.
A co-worker and I once talked about attachment parenting and a possible danger of always answering your child's cry and other similar approaches in parenting. To be honest, I'm not very good at being put on the spot defending this lifestyle choice, but here is a brief summary of our discussion:
Co-worker: Aren't you concerned that your child will be ill-equipped to handle the real world?
Me: Well, he will have a lot of time to learn about how unfair and cold the world can be later in life. I think what he needs right now is the foundation of knowledge that we love him, he can at the very least always trust us, and - on a deeper, more important level - he can always trust God.
That, at least for right now, seems to be the biggest difference to me in the way we are parenting and what is more commonly accepted. Yes, when Hoss was younger, we always answered his every cry. I think that, and other choices, helped build the foundation for his eternal soul's rest in the knowledge that the world is hard, but he can take heart, because Jesus has overcome the world. I feel like he will have a harder time figuring that on his own, than if we properly equip him. It would be like telling him he can go sledding after a big snow but giving him no sled. Sure he could go to the hill and gravity would help him find his way down the hill with or without a sled. But giving him a sled would certainly make it easier and safer for him to reach his destination. I'm not sure if that adequately captures my thinking, but hopefully you get the point.
As previously stated, I feel that part of our goal in parenting - more...our responsibility in parenting - is to be a reflection of the character of God by the power of the Holy Spirit living in us. Making the decisions to create a world of trust that Hoss can be grounded in, I feel, will help him navigate the difficult world out there.
To end on a lighter note, we found some great music videos on YouTube today that probably everyone knows about, but in case you haven't, check out Eric Herman either at YouTube, or his cd collection at Amazon (one of the albums is linked below). Thanks and God bless...
At work we had a meeting and one of the main topics presented by the speaker was on building a team by building trust. A core part of building trust is being vulnerable.
A co-worker and I once talked about attachment parenting and a possible danger of always answering your child's cry and other similar approaches in parenting. To be honest, I'm not very good at being put on the spot defending this lifestyle choice, but here is a brief summary of our discussion:
Co-worker: Aren't you concerned that your child will be ill-equipped to handle the real world?
Me: Well, he will have a lot of time to learn about how unfair and cold the world can be later in life. I think what he needs right now is the foundation of knowledge that we love him, he can at the very least always trust us, and - on a deeper, more important level - he can always trust God.
That, at least for right now, seems to be the biggest difference to me in the way we are parenting and what is more commonly accepted. Yes, when Hoss was younger, we always answered his every cry. I think that, and other choices, helped build the foundation for his eternal soul's rest in the knowledge that the world is hard, but he can take heart, because Jesus has overcome the world. I feel like he will have a harder time figuring that on his own, than if we properly equip him. It would be like telling him he can go sledding after a big snow but giving him no sled. Sure he could go to the hill and gravity would help him find his way down the hill with or without a sled. But giving him a sled would certainly make it easier and safer for him to reach his destination. I'm not sure if that adequately captures my thinking, but hopefully you get the point.
As previously stated, I feel that part of our goal in parenting - more...our responsibility in parenting - is to be a reflection of the character of God by the power of the Holy Spirit living in us. Making the decisions to create a world of trust that Hoss can be grounded in, I feel, will help him navigate the difficult world out there.
To end on a lighter note, we found some great music videos on YouTube today that probably everyone knows about, but in case you haven't, check out Eric Herman either at YouTube, or his cd collection at Amazon (one of the albums is linked below). Thanks and God bless...
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